Love has gone down the drain...
I would like the support of my blogger friends now.
I experienced a nasty violent outburst from
a man I thought was genuinely kind, fun-loving and personable.
I am very sad to say that I found out otherwise.
Why tell you?
Because I need all of the support I can get.
I am grateful for the love I experienced with this man,
but I can now clearly see he is not the man he presented to me.
He sees all of the "sacrifices" he made to me was because he loved me.
I never asked for nor desired the "sacrifices" he speaks of.
I believe he is re-living his past girlfriend experiences
that have gone sour.
I choose to detach myself from such a person and experience.
Please let me know of your experiences if indeed you have experienced one..
I feel baffled.
I would like the support of my blogger friends now.
I experienced a nasty violent outburst from
a man I thought was genuinely kind, fun-loving and personable.
I am very sad to say that I found out otherwise.
Why tell you?
Because I need all of the support I can get.
I am grateful for the love I experienced with this man,
but I can now clearly see he is not the man he presented to me.
He sees all of the "sacrifices" he made to me was because he loved me.
I never asked for nor desired the "sacrifices" he speaks of.
I believe he is re-living his past girlfriend experiences
that have gone sour.
I choose to detach myself from such a person and experience.
Please let me know of your experiences if indeed you have experienced one..
I feel baffled.
12 comments:
I have no experience like this, but I'm truly sorry for you and you can always email me if you need help...
Praying for you.
Hi Gary,
Thank you. I just might do it.
I feel betrayed. Sad.
Hi Rick,
Thanks! I believe in the power of prayer.
I'm so sorry.... If you need me email gwray@ccbcu.com it goes straight to my blackberry...I hope things work out..
Hey Kayla,
Really, I could fill up your whole blog--which is why I have to have one of my own!! ;) But because of all the relationship crap I've been through I am really smart about them. Please feel free to get my email from Yoda if you like or want to vent.
It's really surprising when you think you know someone and they turn on you. I hope you are doing okay--I know things have been really rough for you these past few months.
--snow
I'm sorry that had to happen. At least you know now instead of later. On top of that, we all change as we go through life- some for the better, some not...
Kayla,
Here is what I know: Although the situation you speak of is devastating, you should feel pride in the realization that you have enough self-esteem, self-worth, integrity, and emotional intelligence to see this man's actions clearly. As someone who, in the past, has volunteered at a Domestic Violence Shelter, I know all too well that it is quite easy for a woman to accept the garbage that can come out of a manipulative and unhealthy man's mouth all in the name of "love." She believes the fault lies within her, and she should have done more of this or more of that for "him." The kind of behavior you describe is typical of a narcissistic personality (of which I blogged recently) and an abuser. Although the pain of this realization is no less, I commend you for reaching out in this community, and I applaud you for recognizing your worth and standing up for yourself. You have a whole world of worthwile females (and healthy males) standing with you.
Lots of hugs for you Kayla.
I went through alot of violent outbursts with my sons dad, I am here for you email me if you want.
lorflor7@gmail.com
Hi Gary,
Thank you for the addy.
You're very kind :-)
Hi Snow,
I've known him for about a year, and not one ounce of anger was shown or voiced. Quite the opposite. Makes me feel like I missed some sign along the way...
Hi Buffalo,
Thanks for dropping by..I've been a poor blogger friend for a while now..
Yes, he had asked me to marry him a couple of months or so ago...glad I didn't feel ready for that just yet.
Hi Esther,
Welcome!
Thanks for visiting my blog.
I appreciate your advice and opinion.
Hi Lori,
Thanks girl..I appreciate your hugs, understanding and email addy.
I hope you are getting better day-by-day. Relationships can be SO hard, and understanding men sometimes impossible.
Just be so grateful that you got out of it now...
Hi Cheryl,
Yes, I'm getting better. I see now he clearly has an anger issue that will take years of therapy to conquer...
But he is not even willing to say he did anything wrong.
Denial is an ugly thing.
Thanks for your well wishes.
Hey Kayla
I'm also here for your moral support. Sorry I haven't chimed in sooner, but I've bee out of the loop as far as reading OPB's lately.
I'm truly sorry that you had to go through what you did at the end. It's never easy for relationships to end but it was probably for the best. You can email me too, if you like -> green1969tb@yahoo.com.
Cheers, my friend
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